I am talking about habits; those habits that are not helpful, changing those aspects of yourself that are not helping to make you as you were intended. But I will mention that there are some aspects that you Could Never Change, even if you wanted. You could never change your DNA, your looks may be adjusted not changed, you might change your facial appearance not your face. I will always be who I am irrespective of all the add-ons and make-ups. My very essence remains unchanged because my blue print is with someone who made me. Even if am cloned, you would clone me not something different from me.
We need to understand and get this fact clear. First things first, you need to start appreciating who you are for the singular fact that you were made that way to serve a purpose unique to you and only you.
A lot of people have lived many years but have not enjoyed their lives the way they wanted. The quality of life you have lived, determines your fulfilment and otherwise. I want to live a long fulfilled life on earth and so do you, I believe, but what steps have we taken to ensure that we have the quality of life that we should have.
There comes a time when you need to sit down and think hard about how to make some lifestyle changes to reach your life's goal and purpose. It does not matter how things have been or how things are at the moment, recession, global meltdown or not. You have to have that attitude of this-has-got-to-change and set about making the kind of lifestyle changes you desire to see happen.
Now, take a pen and piece of paper, list on the one side all the wrong habits, on the other side, list the causes and besides the causes, list all the steps/actions you need to take that will reduce to the barest minimum or kill the habit. For me, what's not helping me should go completely if I can help it.
Some habits are so strong, we have been in it since God-knows-when, we have hit at it and it has not budged. Then it becomes clear that you need God to help you do away with it. If that is what it requires, why not. It is even better to go to the Highest Authority to report your case and receive respite.
Some of the habits that I can readily mention are listed below. You can make your own list depending on your peculiar situation and circumstances.
- Excessive drinking
- cursing/being abusive
- having a negative view of life
- fault finding /blaming
- womanizing
- Lesbianism
- masturbating
- having different sex partners
- adultery
- homosexuality
- gossiping
- procrastination
- not keeping to time for your appointments
- selfishness/stinginess
- not keeping your word
- lying
- arrogance/pride
- talkativeness
- overspeeding
- back stabbing
- keeping grudges
- hatred
- envy, etc.
The key to the breakthroughs we are seeking outside, lies within us. All we need to do is reach inside of ourselves and pick the keys. I urge you to break the wrong habits and make new good ones.
Till I write next time, I leave you with these thoughts.
Till I write next time, I leave you with these thoughts.
Hi Glory,
ReplyDeleteThis is good, we need to change our habit towards our society to make Nigeria a better place for all. Looking forward to your next post.
Olutaller
ANGER MANAGEMENT: A POEM (originally drafted on 12/06/98)
ReplyDelete1. Fiery darts of wind hit me
Ouch! I cry out in pain
How dare you appear so harmless?
And yet can induce so much discomfort and agony
I never want to pitch my tent where you are
For my world might come grumbling at my feet.
2. This panting, hissing and snakelike sounds
Where do they come from?
I hope to God they are not from within me
In my mind’s eyes, I picture your mangled, faceless ugly being
And I puke in disgust!
To imagine you can inhabit humans;
A phenomenon I cannot reconcile with.
3. Oh fiery emotion of wrath
Your ways are so mechanical
Your saliva stings like acid
Your hands are cold and vice like in grip
Your paths are crooked
Your claws simply draw blood
And your sneering words are iron and steel
That hurts and hurts without remedy.
4. Prata, pratin, prantus, prink!
What a natter you make
Creating such confusion and miasma
Suspicion begets accusation and envy begets hatred
Triggering off so much havoc and tumult
That could only be compared with turbulent waves.
This power you have to turn a rose flower to thorns
What rhapsody to know I could be rid of you.
5. In your presence sanity flees
Common sense disappears and
In their places foolishness abound
How swift you are to destroy and
Make a mess in one minute what took years to build
You are a betrayer of friendship
A destroyer of peace
I see the scars and remember
The injuries of years gone by
And I say, anger depart forever.